Knowing the Delicate

Last night I had a conversation with someone who told me they were leaving town this weekend. Suddenly I felt a pierce and pan in my heart. I
immediately withdrew from the conversation and got very quiet. This patter is my usual when I am in an upset with someone. I need to introspect and
discover and ask myself why did this person telling me that he was going away for the weekend bother me.
Did he not consider me in his decision? Does
he not understand my feelings? Did he not tell me in a way that I wanted to be told?

After much contemplation, I realized my own delicate vulnerability of heart. Really being with someone requires a delicate openness of heart. In the
intimacy of this openness comes vulnerability. In vulnerability lies the possibility of hurt, upset and pain. Being vulnerable is being alive. If we are not fully open with another, we cannot be in the full experience and expression of being together.

Real life requires an openness of heart that is capable and able to fully experience life on all levels and in all ways. Being open and vulnerable means being willing to be intimate with ourselves and others and in our life.

I realized the real reason for being upset. The way communication is delivered can be very different. Sometimes with our realization, we can be harsh in the place we are coming from within.

This experience was an opening for me to know and see the delicate within. The knowledge that deep within ties a pure and delicate little self. This
delicateness lives deep within me and although it is not of this world, the delicate must learn to live with and in it.

Love, cherish and honor the delicate and vulnerable within you.

Steps to Becoming to Being more in Charge in your Life

I have a few questions for you and then I will share some steps to being more present and take charge in your own life.

Are you a victim or a take charge person?

Do you feel empowered or disempowered in your life?

Would you like to change from being fully present and responsible in your life?

Life brings a cornucopia and variety of choices and experiences. We can relate and identify these as challenges or opportunities. Some experiences we like and some we dislike. Experiences can bring joy and fulfillment or they can bring pain and disappointment.

Interpreting our experiences can be with the freedom of choice. We can choose to perceive life experiences as a negative or positive, as a growth challenge, or choose to deny and ignore it.

Standing in our power means that we are aware of being fully responsible for our choices, experiences and lives. The empowering realization of truth lies in every situation and experience which has an element of goodness within it. Goodness comes in the form of a golden morsel of knowledge and truth.

Being responsible means being empowered in the way we live our lives. We can choose to live as a victim and have pity parties or we can choose to live in the aliveness of knowing that we are responsible
human beings. We are in control of our choices and our lives.

How do we move from the perspective of being a victim or living in our power?

We take baby steps in being responsible human beings. We know what is next for us. We know that we can choose to step into power and move in it. This many mean choosing something that we do not want to see happen or do not agree with or do not like. As empowered human beings, we make choices because we know it is the right and next step for us.
Yes, consequences incur we each choice. Yes, there is also a price we pay for all our choices whether we are aware of it or not. Every choice brings a consequence. We choose and we experience all of our choices and consequences.

How do we dance in being empowered and living life powerfully?
Steps on moving from being a victim to being a responsible and powerful human being:

Be Aware
Know that all of your life challenges, experiences and lessons you created in your life.

Be Responsible
Responsibility lies in the eye of the beholder. Know that you are
responsible for all of your experiences, choices and consequences.

Avoid the blame and shame game at all costs.

Know that there is no one to blame and this is not about feeling shame or playing games. It doesn’t help you anyway when you blame or feel shame. You are just using up valuable time and energy in your life which could be used in more productive ways.

Be proactive instead of reactive

Put yourself into your life instead of just letting life happen. Become an active part of your life. Do something each day to achieve a goal, solve a problem or resolve and issue etc.

Experience the power of you
Know that you are a powerful being. It is up to you to be in a power
balance. You do not want to abuse your power nor do you want to ignore it. Find your inner balance of power and choose to move forward in it.

Move Forward

Take steps each day toward letting go of your life as a victim and move forward in choosing powerfully. You don’t have to stay stuck in the same place unless you choose to do so. You do have a choice to take a step forward or stay where you are.

Love and enjoy living in the power of you!

Unlock Your Creativity!

5 Ways to Unleash Your Creativity

We are all creative beings.  Some of us may have greater talents at expressing our creativity than others. Our creative expression may not be at the level of the great greats, such great artists as daVinci and Michelangelo, but never the less; we possess the ability to create. 

How can we tap into and expand on our creative ability? 

Create a New routine
Get out of your normal routine. Changing your everyday routine can enhance your creativity.
If you like to go to work a certain way, take a different route.  If you are a morning person and enjoy doing your most important tasks in the morning, do it in the evening.

Invite the element of Surprised
Surprise yourself and/or someone else each day.  Do something fun and out of the ordinary for you to do for yourself or someone else.  Do something new and fun each day!
 
Recharge Time Management
Improving you ability to maintain and manage your time can enhance your creative talents and ability.
Set aside a specific time for your creative time reduces stress and allows a space for your ideas to thrive and blossom.
 
Embrace Conflict
Embracing arguments and challenging others with different convictions sparks a d can lead to innovative and new ideas. In resolving the issue, you will be forced to find a solution and think outside of the box. Recognize the potential of the pressure to make sense of contradictions, instead of being stressed out about it.

Don’t Fear Background Noise
Research has found that a bit of noise can stimulate and enhance creativity. In order to promote divergent and abstract thinking, you need just the right amount of distraction, like quiet office music or in a café.

Are You Ready To Do Your Spring House Cleaning?

The spring time is often associated with spring cleaning. This implies getting rid of the old crusty things we have been keeping during the winter months. Maybe this theory began from the bears gathering food for the winter months. There is another type of house cleaning the “house” referring to you.

Have you ever looked at yourself as a house? Have you ever dreamed of a house?

Did you know that the dream had unconscious messages about you in it? Personal experiences and dreams I have recognized as the real meaning of the house dream with all its rooms was referring to me.

Self housecleaning and clearing is taking a look and see what is actually in your space right now. Give yourself permission to see. Let it happen. Allow it. You may have past clutter from experiences, relationships, career, family etc. Take a look. What do you see? What is the first thing that comes up for you? Let your little, inner, quiet voice have the forum to speak to you. Listen with big ears.

What do you see? What do you hear? Pay attention to what you are seeing and hearing from deep within you. What do you need to clear and clean up? Is it with a person? Are you having an issue with a personal or professional relationship? What is an issue at work? What is an issue between you and your family? What is in your past? What is in your present?

Steps to clear and clean up where you are right now:

Become aware.

Awareness of the issue or conflict, hurt, or unresolved is the first step. Knowing what is in your space.

Clean it up.
This means speaking directly to the person to determine and resolve the issue. This could mean an apology, recognition of a mistake, or, working out an argument. Indirectly a resolution of an issue means to write a letter to an individual, doing a creative activity around the issue, self-expression or physical activity such as dance or walking or a work-out, or gaining insight and deeper understanding about the issue to let it go.
When we remove what is in our space, we have a clean clear space to move forward in something new.

Move Forward.

This allows the opportunity to become someone new and =move forward with ourselves and our life.

Let the Dance Within Begin

Be the music within and begin to dance its dance!

Being aware of what you know in your heart is the first dance step with the inner you! Honoring that awareness of knowing is the second step and following is the third step.

I will begin with an example in my own life. Several years ago, I continuously knew to divorce my husband. I sat in this sense of knowing for a long time, about a year. Everything came up inside of me of why I should not divorce him. Fear was the biggest issue. I was afraid of the emotional pain, afraid of being and living alone, finances, afraid to tell him, afraid of what others may think, the list of fears was endless. My biggest fear was that I was afraid of ending my dream of “happily ever after”.

As difficult and painful it was to follow my inner voice and dance within, I did it. I cried for two years, but I knew it was true for me to do. I listened and followed my inner knowing, guidance and truth. When I did this, my next message of inner knowing and guidance spoke to me. I followed it as well. This was the beginning of the awareness that I was able and capable of dancing within myself. Each time I followed my inner guidance and knowing, I know myself in a new and better way. Through this process, I learned to be aware, honor, listen and follow my heart. I learned to dance my dance.

The dance within begins by looking within instead of outside oneself. Focus on letting the inner voice speak to you. Listen carefully for the soft and subtle inner voice. The second step is to honor it. This means to be quiet, focus and listen. Let your inner voice speak to you. The third step is to follow it. Take the necessary steps to follow through and take action. The voice may also speak and guide you in a way of no action. Just listen and follow. Be okay with its message.

Be aware of being in your heart, honoring this awareness with diligence. Diligence is a focus of reference and respect. Listen to the soft, sweet and gentle message of the inner voice. Dancing within oneself means following this subtle voice within. It also means taking the action/s to follow the loveliness of its message.

Dance is the healing art from within the beginning of time
The dance of life
The unspoken truth
The day of old and the time of youth
The sacred spiral does turn and spin
As the soul awakens the spirit within

Arielle Giordano

Let It In: Heart

Everyday people touch our hearts. We may be going to work in a subway, bus or train. We may have to go through a tollbooth along the way.
As we get these tiny touches of heart, let them in. Feel the softness of the touch. Allow your heart to be in a soft, loving gentle space for today and every day.

If it is a kind touch let it in. If it is painful touch, let it in. Allow you heart to be open and vulnerable. The vulnerability of heart opens the door to new realities within you.

Let it happen. Let something new present itself to you every day in every way. Let it in.

A Peek in the Past

In the morning after my walk with the dog, I got it! I realized that my deep down desire for a relationship with a man, came from my past. AS I lie in my bed across from my parents’ bedroom, I heard my mother. I thought she was laughing. A presence came into my room and told me to get up and go into their bedroom. I did. As I glanced into the room, I watched him gasp for air and take his last breath. At 13 years old, I watched my father die in front of me as my mother gave him artificial recitation. After his death, my mother told us not to mention his name or talk about my father. My heart broke. I cried in my pillow for two years. I never told anyone of my tears at the time.
I did not know that every since, I have grieved his loss. . I have been craving the relationship with my father for my whole life. I recently realized unconsciously, I have been longing for him.

Standing in my kitchen one morning, I saw it all very clearly. The picture opened up for me to see, I got into the space of remembering the feeling safe and secure when my dad was alive. Safety in all aspects of my life has been one of my greatest issues ever since.

I know on one level that I do not need a relationship with a man to be whole and complete. I can be a whole and complete woman alone. But I do know that my seeing is my healing in the knowing of the beginning of my desire. The point of where it began as a little girl losing her father. And, now as an adult woman, I understand my deep desire for a man in my life.

3 stories of how dancing changed my life

Greetings! I would like to start off by sharing some stories of how dancing really changed my life and it can show you why I love the work I do.

A gloomy day in Canada!
Dance and movement impsire me to feel better to move to new levels and new awareness within my body, emotions, mind, soul and spirit! Dancing has always brought me to a new place inside. If I am tired, I feel more energized after I move andn dace. I am in a bad mood,unhappy, depressed or just don’t feel like moving after I dance I feel bettrer. When I move my body everything moves. Each cell, muscle, emotion, feeling, bone, and gland move swith me.

A snowy day In Canada, I was scheduled to teach a dance class at the University of Alberta. There I was freezing cold as I walked through the beautiful grounds. As I listened to the birds, the Magpies, along the pathway to the entrance of the building I did not feel like teaching or dancing this morning. I walked in the room and against the wall stood ten students waiting for me. They all stared at me as I put my things down. I put the music in the CD player and at first I remained in my melancholoy mood with no energy or inspiration to dance. As i began my warn up liatening to the music and stretching with simple dance movments, moving into shimmies and choreography without my conscious awareness, I felt better. By the end of the class I was energized and in a great mood!! I was invigorated with more energy and felt like dancing and teaching my next class!

A beautiful day in Florida and an amazing moment of being!!
The past holiday season was a very sad one for me. My brother passed away quite suddenly. I did not feel like listening to music moving, exercising, dancing or really anything. I was overcome with the grief of this great loss. I knew my students were waiting for me to teach classes. But I knew that I was not ready to teach them. I knew that I could not be fully present and engaged and give and offer them all of me. So I waited until the day arrived and I knew that I was ready to teach. This was in February 2010.
As I began to teach my first belly dancing class with a favorite group of women, I began to feel my cells and all levels within me moving. It was an amazing experience to feel and know what the dance and movement was actually doing within my body. Everything that was stored and tucked away with my body from this experience with my brother was now moving.

The moving was allowing me to heal. The dance was my process of healing all levels within me that needed healing. My body, emotions, mind heart soul were shifting as I began to move and dance. I have always known that his was hapopening but this was the first time that I was present and in the experience of that knowing that it was happening at that moment of being.